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Grief Counseling San Diego, CA

Are you struggling due to a loss in your life?

Grief counseling and therapy can help you work through and overcome the pain and obstacles you are experiencing, and find more peace in your life

Have you experienced a loss? Are you noticing negative patterns in your life that have started to develop in response to your loss? Do you find yourself avoiding things that could remind you of your loss? Perhaps you feel like a shell of yourself and don’t know how to move forward. Maybe you’re worried that if you try to move forward, then the loss is real… Grief can impact every facet of your life, including your personality, self-esteem, relationships, motivation, mood, appearance, ability to communicate, and more. If left untreated, the way that you are feeling now could continue to negatively impact your life and those you love.

Grief is a human response to losing something you care about, and you are not alone

Since how we grieve is so specific and unique to our experience, there really isn’t a “right way” to process grief. Grief hits hard and often without warning. It can be heart-breaking, devastating, debilitating and simply unfair… and that can often be the hardest part. How does one process and find a way to accept what feels so unacceptable? Additionally, although grief is most often attached to experiencing the death of a loved one, you can grieve over the loss of numerous things; including, but not limited to, the loss of: a relationship, an opportunity, a pet, personal identity, finances, career, or anything else that has immense meaning. Furthermore, the loss doesn’t even have to be literal. Sometimes grief can occur due to what it may symbolize or represent; such as how an elder losing their drivers license could symbolize a loss of freedom or independence; and not the loss of the license itself. Regardless of how grief hits, what remains true is that grief hits; no matter who you are. Grief is a human response to losing something you care about, and you are not alone…

Seeing a Grief Counselor Can Help!

Women Who is Distressed and Needs to See a Grief Counselor in San Diego, CA Grief issues impact the big and the small things in our lives and in ourselves. It can change how we view ourselves, those around us, or even life as a whole. What makes matters worse is how easily grief can creep up on us and create negative change that we don’t even register until it’s too late. Seeing a grief counselor can help you process and validate the heavy emotions that you are experiencing as a result of a loss in your life, and develop techniques and patterns that honor you and what you have lost. From there, we can begin developing strategies that can lead to the life you deserve.

Grief counseling can result in, but is not limited to:

What Does Grief Therapy Look Like?

Man Having a Breakthrough at Grief Therapy Session in  San Diego, CA In grief therapy I utilize various approaches that promote emotional processing, growth and empowerment. I start by getting to know you, so that I can provide the space and safety for you to share whatever it is that you are experiencing as a result of your grief and loss. Together, we will explore your feelings around your loss and identify what prevents you from overcoming your grief and whatever patterns that are not serving you. Through this, I will be there every step of the way as you begin to process the difficult feelings that are causing these negative patterns, so that you can find peace and meaning in your life. By processing and honoring your loss, we will be able to develop and implement improved patterns that are both empowering and authentic to you and your experience.

Why Book a Grief Therapy Session with Me?

Spencer Chernick, LMFT - ADHD, Couples, Teens, Children - San Diego, CA 92109 Grief is something I know all too well. In addition to my training and experience in the field, I have personally experienced what it is to grieve. I know what it feels like to have your entire life change in a single moment, and the powerlessness it causes. I know the devastation. So when I say that I care and believe you can get through this, I am not just saying it as a therapist who has studied and practiced it; I am saying it as another human being who had to overcome it himself. Despite the various ways grief can present itself, I have experience working with numerous people suffering from grief and the negative patterns and obstacles that often develop. Whether it’s working through specific symptoms, stages, or how it impacts your relationships with yourself or others, I have helped many people move forward and take back some of what was lost. My specific approach is built for grief, and I have found success in a variety of treatment settings including school settings, community settings, over the phone, online and in private practice.

With Positive Therapy and Humanistic Therapy as my primary therapeutic approaches, my style is specifically geared toward being supportive and understanding to whatever it is that you are experiencing. No shame. No judgement. Just the safety and space needed to not only heal, but figure out how you even feel in the first place. At your pace. As two of the newer approaches in grief therapy, I focus on empowering you and identifying strengths that you can use to help yourself get through these difficult times. Through providing productive mindsets and honoring the human experience, I have helped dozens work through and overcome their grief and loss; and go on to live more fulfilling lives than they thought possible… I would love to continue this trend with you.

Are you ready to stop feeling stuck in your grief?

Contact me to schedule a 15 minute phone consultation and see if Grief Counseling in San Diego is right for you!

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I do not accept insurance but I do offer Superbills that can be presented to insurance companies for reimbursement. Learn more about my rates and insurance.

Typical questions about seeing a grief therapist...

Before I answer this, it is important to clarify that there is no such thing as “normal grief”. Everyone grieves in their own way. The term “normal grief” is more of an umbrella term for responses that are more common and, therefore, more predictable. Grief can hit you emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually… you name it! As a result, “normal grief” can include, but is not limited to: longing for, dreaming about, or being preoccupied with your loss, sadness, depression, crying, anger, fatigue, guilt, loss of interest in once pleasurable things, denial, despair, emotional reactivity, insomnia, confusion and disorganization, inability to concentrate, meaninglessness, withdrawal, avoidance, overreacting, numbness, relief, fear, shame, loneliness, helplessness, hopelessness, emptiness, loss of appetite, weight gain, passing hallucinations and more. Honestly, the only thing “normal” in grief is that it can impact in any amount of ways and last for any amount of time. However, it is also important to note that “normal grief” gradually makes its way toward acceptance and a general return to living an everyday life.

The most commonly reported stages of grief (in order) are shock, denial, anger, bargaining, guilt, depression, acceptance, and finding meaning. However, although this is the most commonly reported order of stages, grief does not tend to be linear. Instead of going from one stage to another in a fixed loop, people tend to go patterns that are inconsistent and specific to the individual’s loss. Over time, when fully processed and effective strategies are locked in, the idea is to get to a point where essentially all of your time is spent in the “acceptance” and “finding meaning” stages.

Those who struggle with complicated grief truly struggle to overcome and recover from their loss. Sometimes called persistent complex bereavement disorder, complicated grief responses to loss are debilitating, long lasting, and/or impair their ability to engage in daily activities.

As the name suggests, anticipatory grief is grief you can see coming ahead of time; such as when a loved one is diagnosed with a terminal illness, or a couple that knows their relationship will have to end when summer is over. Although the loss hasn’t actually happened yet, once we understand (and accept) that we will lose something, the grieving process begins… Grief counseling can help regardless of if your currently experiencing grief from a loss or anticipatory grief leading up to a loss. 

In short, yes… but no. Although often used synonymously with grief, bereavement is more accurately the time period that someone experiences grief. Grief is the emotional response that someone has when faced with a loss in their life of something or someone of importance.

Methods I Use in Grief Therapy

Positive Therapy

Positive Therapy is a relatively new therapeutic approach, influenced by both the humanistic and psychodynamic approaches towards diagnosis and treatment. Its core focus is on moving away from what’s ‘wrong’ or the negative aspects of an individual, and instead move towards what’s good and positive; which promotes solution-focused problem-solving, increased confidence and self esteem, and a positive mindset… all of which play a huge role during childhood development!

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a therapeutic modality that focuses on the cause and effect patterns we fall into and the power of mindset. Through increased awareness of the negative thinking patterns and factors that influence our less-desired behaviors, CBT provides the tools necessary to effectively break the patterns that put us in our own way and develop productive patterns to put us back in the driver’s seat. In fact, research suggests that behavioral therapy works better for ADHD symptomatology than other forms of therapy.

Solution-Focused Brief Therapy

Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT) is a therapeutic modality that focuses on solutions and what has worked in the past. Instead of examining negative patterns or identifying “problems”, SFBT promotes solution-oriented and positive thinking that is so beneficial for the decreased self esteem and repeated frustrations that are so often experienced by individuals with low self esteem.


The Enneagram is a personality assessment tool that is extremely useful in improving personal self-knowledge and personality development, offering a powerful tool for self-mastery, conflict resolution, team dynamics, leadership and emotional intelligence. I have been certified in the Enneagram, Enneagram Tritype, and Instinctual Types and Subtypes by Katherine Chernick Fauvre, the creator of Enneagram Tritype; who also just so happens to be my mother. Having grown up around this unique form of personality diagnostics I have applied and studied the Enneagram throughout my personal and professional life, and I am very passionate about using its power to help those with low self esteem. Accomplishing these benefits of the Enneagram typically results in increased self esteem as you blame yourself less and understand/accept yourself more. For more information about Katherine Chernick Fauvre, the Enneagram, Enneagram Tritype, and/or Instinctual Types and Subtypes, click the corresponding link(s).

Grief Counseling in San Diego, CA

If you’re ready to overcome your grief and loss, and learn more about my grief counseling and therapy services, please use the button above or call (858) 634-0502 for a free 15 minute phone consultation.

Spencer Chernick, LMFT
ADHD, Teen & Couples Therapy
5330 Carroll Canyon Rd Suite 120,
San Diego, CA 92121
(858) 634-0502